| acceptance | of loss | 155-6 |
| accidental death | press interest | 60,66 |
| accidents |
| 59-64 |
| accountant |
| 137 |
| advanced decision |
| 14,37-9,44,138,173-5 |
| advanced directve |
| 14,37-9,44,138,173-5 |
| age at death |
| 43 |
| anniversary of death |
| 62,89,167,168 |
| artificial feeding |
| 38,44,53 |
| ashes | disposal of | 140 |
| assisted suicide |
| 14,44,52-4,148 |
| attorney | lasting power of | 39,40,49,136-7,139,143,145-6,150 |
| Atul Gawande |
| 42,45,47,55,58,156 |
| authors | details | 181-2 |
| Bad news |
| 11,22 |
| before it’s too late |
| 41,55,136,138,142,143,154 |
| belief |
| 23,53,86,101-4,125,126,128,150,153 |
| bereavement |
| 59,64,72,86-7,89,90,96,98,149,167-9 |
| bibliography | at the end of each chapter |
|
| bibliography | general | 177 |
| Billy Graham |
| 55 |
| blame |
| 14,64,71,79,89 |
| brain | damage | 39 |
| brain | tumour | 23 |
| bucket list | film | 51,117 |
| burial |
| 76,78,134-5,139-40,142-3,162-3 |
| cancer |
| 11,13,19,20,22,25-7,36-7,44,48,50-1,57,87,91-3,125,144,152,157 |
| cards | condolence | 61-2,80,103,168 |
| care |
| 12,16,22-3,27,38,45-7,50-4,57,67,72,85,129,168 |
| care | in last hours | 57 |
| care | lack of | 45 |
| carer | death of | 86-9 |
| certificate | of death | 134-5 |
| Chapel of Rest |
| 134 |
| children | understanding of death | 83-86 |
| children | death of a parent | 87-90 |
| children | death of a sibling | 90-1 |
| children | spiritual understanding | 86 |
| Christian | belief | 17,103-11,124-9 |
| Christian | hope | 104-7 |
| church |
| 60-1,63-4,69,110,116,125,137-42,149 |
| Cicely Saunders |
| 45-6,55 |
| compassion |
| 53-4 |
| control | gaining | 26-7,46,49,52,57,92 |
| control | lack/loss | 14-15,72,114,124,126,129 |
| control | of pain | 46,48-9,50,57 |
| coping | life threatening illness | 19-31 |
| coping | the family | 41,95 |
| coping | with a diifficult diagnosis | 26,41 |
| coping | with the unexpected | 59-66 |
| Coroner |
| 134,161 |
| counsellor |
| 30,144,166 |
| CPR | decision | 37-8,161 |
| cremation |
| 76,78,139-43,161-3 |
| cure |
| 16,19-20,26,34,41,44-6,125-6 |
| death | approach of | 154,161-4 |
| death | as a release | 157 |
| death | as good as possible | 53 |
| death | at the time of | 135 |
| death | causes | 48 |
| death | certificate | 134-5 |
| death | chioices | 48 |
| death | fear of | 46,114,125 |
| death | fear of | 114 |
| death | in a population | 43 |
| death | life after? | 15,101-11 |
| death | loneliness | 157-8 |
| death | natural | 37,39 |
| death | neonatal | 78-80 |
| death | no warning | 59 |
| death | not a failure | 45 |
| death | of a baby | 15,75-81 |
| death | of a child | 91-99 |
| death | of a parent | 86-90, 98-9 |
| death | of brother or sister | 90-1,98-9 |
| death | of parent/carer | 87-90,98-9 |
| death | preparation for1 | 161-4 |
| death | registering | 135 |
| death | sudden | 14,59-66,96 |
| death | unexpected | 14,59-66 |
| death | we don’t know when | 63 |
| death | with dignity | 53-4,57,124,129,155 |
| Death Cafes |
| 149-50 |
| decisions | difficulties | 33-42 |
| decisions | resuscitation | 37,38 |
| decisions | the elderly | 40-1 |
| decisions | treatment | 33-35 |
| dementia |
| 39,43,45,49,57,158 |
| denial |
| 14,20 |
| diagnosis | coming to terms with | 22-26 |
| diagnosis | coping with | 19-31 |
| diagnosis | life threatening illness | 13,15,19-31,44,53,94,117,150,165 |
| die | how do we? | 56-7 |
| difficult decisions |
| 33-42 |
| dignity |
| 53-4,57,124,129,155 |
| DNAR | decision | 14,37-9,41-2,149 |
| doctors |
| 11,13,16,23,26-7,30,33-5,37-9,41,46-8,52,54,75-9,96,113,152-3 |
| dyiing at home | at home | 51,161-4 |
| dying | alone | 45-6,63-4 |
| dying | fear of | 114-5,125 |
| dying | letting go | 129,140 |
| dying | need to talk | 11-17,21-2,29-30,34,47-9,71,73,86,89,117,136 |
| dying | preparation for | 12,16-7,41,57,91-2143,148,153,161-4 |
| dying | your wishes | 35,41,51,148-9,153, |
| Eastern religions |
| 102 |
| end of life |
| 1215,39,45,51-7,77,147,154 |
| euthanasia |
| 52,54,57 |
| faith | people of | 15-6,20,26,55,70,105,108-9,123,127, |
| family | estrangement/reconsiliation | 25-6,154 |
| family | help | 24,27-9,33,44,80,85,116 |
| family | how will they cope? | 20-1,89,94,95-7 |
| family | talking to | 30-1,34,41,80,117,150-1,169 |
| fear |
| 11, 13, 15, 19,20,22,24,30,52,54,69,105,113-121 |
| forgiveness |
| 25,56,118 |
| friends | help | 24-9,80,85,87,96,109,147-59,165-9 |
| friends | talking to | 11-16,24-6,33-4,93,117 |
| funeral | accidental death | 61 |
| funeral | after | 62 |
| funeral | Christian | 63,139,141 |
| funeral | cost | 140 |
| funeral | planning | 12,16,51,76,78,139-143,148-9 |
| funeral | secular | 139,140,142 |
| funeral | service | 141-2 |
| funeral director | (undertaker) | 61,134-6,140-2,145,161-2 |
| General Practitioner (GP) |
| 23,34,36,38,134,161,163,166 |
| God |
| 13,27,101-9,115,118-21,123-131 |
| goodbye | saying | 9,26,48,54,56,61,71,78,154 |
| Grave Talk |
| 149 |
| Green form |
| 135,163 |
| growing old |
| 43 |
| guilt | about a death | 79,85,90 |
| guilt | about diagnosis | 20 |
| guilt | after suicide | 71,90 |
| guilt | relationships | 50,64 |
| guilt | sense of | 115,119,129,148,155,000,000 |
| head injury |
| 39,64 |
| healing | of relaionships | 25,56 |
| healing | praying for | 123-131 |
| help | how to | 147-158 |
| helping | things to do/offer | 165-6 |
| helping | limits of | 166 |
| helping | looking after youself | 166 |
| holding a hand |
| 72,151 |
| holisitc care |
| 47,50,153 |
| honesty |
| 34,84,90,93 |
| hope | Christian, the | 104-107,158 |
| hope | having | 15-7,34,44-6,59,150 |
| hope | loss of | 27,34,66,68,69,92,114,128 |
| hospice | children’s | 15,96 |
| hospice | access | 50 |
| hospice | movement | 14-5,25,45-6,49,50,55,96 |
| hospice | staff | 128,154 |
| hospital |
| 14,21,23,25,33,35,37-8,45-6,48,50-1,69,76,96,113,117,133-4 |
| illness | life threatening1 | 13,19-31,33,92,95-6,147,150-1,154 |
| illness | terminal | 15-7,138 |
| imagination |
| 21,88,113 |
| informaion | from medical staff | 31,33-4 |
| information | internet | 23,24 |
| information | sharing | 21-2,95 |
| information | truthful | 23-4,148 |
| inquest |
| 63,66,134 |
| intestacy |
| 136 |
| Islam |
| 102 |
| Jesus | resurrection | 103-4 |
| Judaism |
| 102-3,143 |
| legality | power of atorney | 49 |
| legality | assisted dying | 52-4 |
| legality | issues after death | 134,136,138,143 |
| letters of administration |
| 136 |
| letting go |
| 129,140 |
| life after death? | ideas about | 101-111 |
| life insurance | none | 61 |
| Listening |
| 12,72,150 |
| living will | advanced directive/decision | 14,37-9,44,138,173-5 |
| Lord’s Prayer |
| 172 |
| Macmillan nurse |
| 50-1,54 |
| medical advice |
| 14,16,23,29-30,33,36-42 |
| medical certificate |
| 134-5 |
| medicine | limits to | 43-58 |
| memories |
| 62,66,73,84,89,166,169 |
| miscarriage |
| 15,75-6,80-1 |
| next of kin | decisions | 135,140,145 |
| NHS | National Health Service | 36,65,163,166 |
| NICE | National Institute for Health and Care Excellence. | 36 |
| nurse |
| 16,24,50-51 |
| organ | donation | 39,42,51 |
| pain | emotional | 50 |
| pain | general | 14,15,46,49-54 |
| pain | medicine use | 46,49,52 |
| pain | psychological | 49-50 |
| palliative care | home | 50 |
| palliative care | general | 14,35,41,46,54,57,96,125 |
| palliative care | professionals | 14,35,46-7,50-1 |
| parent | death of | 86-89 |
| parents | general | 15-6,53,67,70-1,75-99,121,157 |
| Patient Advice and Liaison Serivce(PALS) | 33 |
| patient support groups/agencies | 29,178-9 |
| peace |
| 16,38,55,103,107-8,120-1,124,129-30,154,157 |
| peace | making | 16,118,154 |
| phobias |
| 116-117 |
| physician assisted suicide | 14,44,52-4,148 |
| physician assisted suicide | legal situation | 52 |
| popular belief |
| 103 |
| post mortem |
| 77-9,134,143,161 |
| power of attorney | lasting | 39,40-1,49,136-7,139,143,145-6,150 |
| practical help |
| 24,65,73,133,146,147-60,165-72 |
| prayer |
| 120-1,123-131,156-7,170-2 |
| prayer | Evening Collect | 157,172 |
| prayer | helpful for some | 156-7 |
| prayer | not helpful? | 128 |
| prayer | The Lord’s | 127,157,172 |
| prayers | for use | 171-2 |
| praying | for healing | 123-131,144 |
| prepare |
| 11,47,88,94,114-5,134,139,162 |
| prepare | no time to | 59,65 |
| Probate | registry | 136 |
| purpose | living | 25,27-8,30,43-4,51,55,57,156 |
| putting affairs in order |
| 16,41,135-7,145-6 |
| registering | death | 78,81,135 |
| Registrar |
| 135-6,162-3 |
| relationships | with God | 118,153 |
| relationships unhealed |
| 25,50,55-6,118,125 |
| religion | Eastern | 102 |
| religion | Islam | 102-3 |
| religion | Judaism | 102 |
| religion | tolerance | 103 |
| religious communities | speific requirements | 141,142 |
| resources |
| 16,177-9 |
| resurrection | of Jesus | 103-5,108,110,119 |
| resuscitation | do not attempt | 14,37-8,41-2 |
| saying goodbye |
| 9,26,45,54,56,71,78,154 |
| school |
| 85,87 |
| shock |
| 11,62,72,75,79,148,150-1 |
| social media |
| 60 |
| solicitor |
| 133,136-9 |
| specialist nurses |
| 23,29 |
| spiritual concerns |
| 50-1 |
| stillbirth |
| 15,77-8,80-1 |
| stroke |
| 39 |
| sudden death | after the funeral | 62 |
| sudden death | in infancy | 78-9, |
| sudden death | of a child | 96 |
| sudden death | what to say? | 14,59-66 |
| suffering |
| 48,54,64,67,102-3,105-6,113,119-20,124,147,165 |
| suicide |
| 67-74,89-90 |
| suicide | assisted | 14,44,52-8,148 |
| support | sources of | 24,29,31,51,61,66,72-3,115-6,157,166 |
| survival | factors in | 19,43,47,105,114,123,148 |
| talking | about difficulties | 33-42,150 |
| talking | deciding not to | 92-93 |
| talking | the way in? | 150-1,154 |
| talking | to a child expected to die | 92-95 |
| talking | to children | 15, 83-99 |
| talking | to family | 30-1,34,41,80,117,150-1,169 |
| talking | to friends | 11-16,24-6,33-4,93,117 |
| talking | to medical staff | 23,27,35,39,41,92,94-6,117 |
| talking | to someone with experience | 15,27,29-31,34,65,87,93,108-9,115,128-9,149 |
| tears | weeping | 72,152,168 |
| teenagers | understanding of death | 83,85-6,92-4,97.99 |
| telling others |
| 21-22,31 |
| terminal | phase | 53,161-4 |
| terminal illness |
| 13,15,16,87,138 |
| time | as a healer | 22, 62 |
| time | for goals and interests | 25 |
| time | for renewing contact | 25 |
| time | from family and friends | 24-Jun |
| time | from medical staff | 23 |
| time | to talk | 14,21,37,59 |
| treatment | active | 46 |
| treatment | decisions | 33-35 |
| treatment | end of | 29 |
| treatment | for cure | 14,16,19-20,26,34,44-6,126,128 |
| treatment | holistic | 47,50,153 |
| treatment | palliative | 14,35,46 |
| treatment | stopping | 13,34,47 |
| treatment | withdrawing | 14,52-3,57 |
| uncertainty |
| 13,20,29 |
| undertaker | (funeral director) | 61,134-6,140-2,145,161-2 |
| unexpected |
| 59-66,78-9,81,86,134,161 |
| web sites | additional | 178-9 |
| web sites | at the end of each chapter |
|
| what to say? |
| 11, 13.16,24,151 |
| who to speak to | choosing | 24 |
| why? | did this happen | 62,71 |
| will | finding | 137-9 |
| will | making | 12,16137-8,145 |
| wishes | make known | 41,44,136,142,143 |