acceptance | of loss | 155-6 |
accidental death | press interest | 60,66 |
accidents |
| 59-64 |
accountant |
| 137 |
advanced decision |
| 14,37-9,44,138,173-5 |
advanced directve |
| 14,37-9,44,138,173-5 |
age at death |
| 43 |
anniversary of death |
| 62,89,167,168 |
artificial feeding |
| 38,44,53 |
ashes | disposal of | 140 |
assisted suicide |
| 14,44,52-4,148 |
attorney | lasting power of | 39,40,49,136-7,139,143,145-6,150 |
Atul Gawande |
| 42,45,47,55,58,156 |
authors | details | 181-2 |
Bad news |
| 11,22 |
before it’s too late |
| 41,55,136,138,142,143,154 |
belief |
| 23,53,86,101-4,125,126,128,150,153 |
bereavement |
| 59,64,72,86-7,89,90,96,98,149,167-9 |
bibliography | at the end of each chapter |
|
bibliography | general | 177 |
Billy Graham |
| 55 |
blame |
| 14,64,71,79,89 |
brain | damage | 39 |
brain | tumour | 23 |
bucket list | film | 51,117 |
burial |
| 76,78,134-5,139-40,142-3,162-3 |
cancer |
| 11,13,19,20,22,25-7,36-7,44,48,50-1,57,87,91-3,125,144,152,157 |
cards | condolence | 61-2,80,103,168 |
care |
| 12,16,22-3,27,38,45-7,50-4,57,67,72,85,129,168 |
care | in last hours | 57 |
care | lack of | 45 |
carer | death of | 86-9 |
certificate | of death | 134-5 |
Chapel of Rest |
| 134 |
children | understanding of death | 83-86 |
children | death of a parent | 87-90 |
children | death of a sibling | 90-1 |
children | spiritual understanding | 86 |
Christian | belief | 17,103-11,124-9 |
Christian | hope | 104-7 |
church |
| 60-1,63-4,69,110,116,125,137-42,149 |
Cicely Saunders |
| 45-6,55 |
compassion |
| 53-4 |
control | gaining | 26-7,46,49,52,57,92 |
control | lack/loss | 14-15,72,114,124,126,129 |
control | of pain | 46,48-9,50,57 |
coping | life threatening illness | 19-31 |
coping | the family | 41,95 |
coping | with a diifficult diagnosis | 26,41 |
coping | with the unexpected | 59-66 |
Coroner |
| 134,161 |
counsellor |
| 30,144,166 |
CPR | decision | 37-8,161 |
cremation |
| 76,78,139-43,161-3 |
cure |
| 16,19-20,26,34,41,44-6,125-6 |
death | approach of | 154,161-4 |
death | as a release | 157 |
death | as good as possible | 53 |
death | at the time of | 135 |
death | causes | 48 |
death | certificate | 134-5 |
death | chioices | 48 |
death | fear of | 46,114,125 |
death | fear of | 114 |
death | in a population | 43 |
death | life after? | 15,101-11 |
death | loneliness | 157-8 |
death | natural | 37,39 |
death | neonatal | 78-80 |
death | no warning | 59 |
death | not a failure | 45 |
death | of a baby | 15,75-81 |
death | of a child | 91-99 |
death | of a parent | 86-90, 98-9 |
death | of brother or sister | 90-1,98-9 |
death | of parent/carer | 87-90,98-9 |
death | preparation for1 | 161-4 |
death | registering | 135 |
death | sudden | 14,59-66,96 |
death | unexpected | 14,59-66 |
death | we don’t know when | 63 |
death | with dignity | 53-4,57,124,129,155 |
Death Cafes |
| 149-50 |
decisions | difficulties | 33-42 |
decisions | resuscitation | 37,38 |
decisions | the elderly | 40-1 |
decisions | treatment | 33-35 |
dementia |
| 39,43,45,49,57,158 |
denial |
| 14,20 |
diagnosis | coming to terms with | 22-26 |
diagnosis | coping with | 19-31 |
diagnosis | life threatening illness | 13,15,19-31,44,53,94,117,150,165 |
die | how do we? | 56-7 |
difficult decisions |
| 33-42 |
dignity |
| 53-4,57,124,129,155 |
DNAR | decision | 14,37-9,41-2,149 |
doctors |
| 11,13,16,23,26-7,30,33-5,37-9,41,46-8,52,54,75-9,96,113,152-3 |
dyiing at home | at home | 51,161-4 |
dying | alone | 45-6,63-4 |
dying | fear of | 114-5,125 |
dying | letting go | 129,140 |
dying | need to talk | 11-17,21-2,29-30,34,47-9,71,73,86,89,117,136 |
dying | preparation for | 12,16-7,41,57,91-2143,148,153,161-4 |
dying | your wishes | 35,41,51,148-9,153, |
Eastern religions |
| 102 |
end of life |
| 1215,39,45,51-7,77,147,154 |
euthanasia |
| 52,54,57 |
faith | people of | 15-6,20,26,55,70,105,108-9,123,127, |
family | estrangement/reconsiliation | 25-6,154 |
family | help | 24,27-9,33,44,80,85,116 |
family | how will they cope? | 20-1,89,94,95-7 |
family | talking to | 30-1,34,41,80,117,150-1,169 |
fear |
| 11, 13, 15, 19,20,22,24,30,52,54,69,105,113-121 |
forgiveness |
| 25,56,118 |
friends | help | 24-9,80,85,87,96,109,147-59,165-9 |
friends | talking to | 11-16,24-6,33-4,93,117 |
funeral | accidental death | 61 |
funeral | after | 62 |
funeral | Christian | 63,139,141 |
funeral | cost | 140 |
funeral | planning | 12,16,51,76,78,139-143,148-9 |
funeral | secular | 139,140,142 |
funeral | service | 141-2 |
funeral director | (undertaker) | 61,134-6,140-2,145,161-2 |
General Practitioner (GP) |
| 23,34,36,38,134,161,163,166 |
God |
| 13,27,101-9,115,118-21,123-131 |
goodbye | saying | 9,26,48,54,56,61,71,78,154 |
Grave Talk |
| 149 |
Green form |
| 135,163 |
growing old |
| 43 |
guilt | about a death | 79,85,90 |
guilt | about diagnosis | 20 |
guilt | after suicide | 71,90 |
guilt | relationships | 50,64 |
guilt | sense of | 115,119,129,148,155,000,000 |
head injury |
| 39,64 |
healing | of relaionships | 25,56 |
healing | praying for | 123-131 |
help | how to | 147-158 |
helping | things to do/offer | 165-6 |
helping | limits of | 166 |
helping | looking after youself | 166 |
holding a hand |
| 72,151 |
holisitc care |
| 47,50,153 |
honesty |
| 34,84,90,93 |
hope | Christian, the | 104-107,158 |
hope | having | 15-7,34,44-6,59,150 |
hope | loss of | 27,34,66,68,69,92,114,128 |
hospice | children’s | 15,96 |
hospice | access | 50 |
hospice | movement | 14-5,25,45-6,49,50,55,96 |
hospice | staff | 128,154 |
hospital |
| 14,21,23,25,33,35,37-8,45-6,48,50-1,69,76,96,113,117,133-4 |
illness | life threatening1 | 13,19-31,33,92,95-6,147,150-1,154 |
illness | terminal | 15-7,138 |
imagination |
| 21,88,113 |
informaion | from medical staff | 31,33-4 |
information | internet | 23,24 |
information | sharing | 21-2,95 |
information | truthful | 23-4,148 |
inquest |
| 63,66,134 |
intestacy |
| 136 |
Islam |
| 102 |
Jesus | resurrection | 103-4 |
Judaism |
| 102-3,143 |
legality | power of atorney | 49 |
legality | assisted dying | 52-4 |
legality | issues after death | 134,136,138,143 |
letters of administration |
| 136 |
letting go |
| 129,140 |
life after death? | ideas about | 101-111 |
life insurance | none | 61 |
Listening |
| 12,72,150 |
living will | advanced directive/decision | 14,37-9,44,138,173-5 |
Lord’s Prayer |
| 172 |
Macmillan nurse |
| 50-1,54 |
medical advice |
| 14,16,23,29-30,33,36-42 |
medical certificate |
| 134-5 |
medicine | limits to | 43-58 |
memories |
| 62,66,73,84,89,166,169 |
miscarriage |
| 15,75-6,80-1 |
next of kin | decisions | 135,140,145 |
NHS | National Health Service | 36,65,163,166 |
NICE | National Institute for Health and Care Excellence. | 36 |
nurse |
| 16,24,50-51 |
organ | donation | 39,42,51 |
pain | emotional | 50 |
pain | general | 14,15,46,49-54 |
pain | medicine use | 46,49,52 |
pain | psychological | 49-50 |
palliative care | home | 50 |
palliative care | general | 14,35,41,46,54,57,96,125 |
palliative care | professionals | 14,35,46-7,50-1 |
parent | death of | 86-89 |
parents | general | 15-6,53,67,70-1,75-99,121,157 |
Patient Advice and Liaison Serivce(PALS) | 33 |
patient support groups/agencies | 29,178-9 |
peace |
| 16,38,55,103,107-8,120-1,124,129-30,154,157 |
peace | making | 16,118,154 |
phobias |
| 116-117 |
physician assisted suicide | 14,44,52-4,148 |
physician assisted suicide | legal situation | 52 |
popular belief |
| 103 |
post mortem |
| 77-9,134,143,161 |
power of attorney | lasting | 39,40-1,49,136-7,139,143,145-6,150 |
practical help |
| 24,65,73,133,146,147-60,165-72 |
prayer |
| 120-1,123-131,156-7,170-2 |
prayer | Evening Collect | 157,172 |
prayer | helpful for some | 156-7 |
prayer | not helpful? | 128 |
prayer | The Lord’s | 127,157,172 |
prayers | for use | 171-2 |
praying | for healing | 123-131,144 |
prepare |
| 11,47,88,94,114-5,134,139,162 |
prepare | no time to | 59,65 |
Probate | registry | 136 |
purpose | living | 25,27-8,30,43-4,51,55,57,156 |
putting affairs in order |
| 16,41,135-7,145-6 |
registering | death | 78,81,135 |
Registrar |
| 135-6,162-3 |
relationships | with God | 118,153 |
relationships unhealed |
| 25,50,55-6,118,125 |
religion | Eastern | 102 |
religion | Islam | 102-3 |
religion | Judaism | 102 |
religion | tolerance | 103 |
religious communities | speific requirements | 141,142 |
resources |
| 16,177-9 |
resurrection | of Jesus | 103-5,108,110,119 |
resuscitation | do not attempt | 14,37-8,41-2 |
saying goodbye |
| 9,26,45,54,56,71,78,154 |
school |
| 85,87 |
shock |
| 11,62,72,75,79,148,150-1 |
social media |
| 60 |
solicitor |
| 133,136-9 |
specialist nurses |
| 23,29 |
spiritual concerns |
| 50-1 |
stillbirth |
| 15,77-8,80-1 |
stroke |
| 39 |
sudden death | after the funeral | 62 |
sudden death | in infancy | 78-9, |
sudden death | of a child | 96 |
sudden death | what to say? | 14,59-66 |
suffering |
| 48,54,64,67,102-3,105-6,113,119-20,124,147,165 |
suicide |
| 67-74,89-90 |
suicide | assisted | 14,44,52-8,148 |
support | sources of | 24,29,31,51,61,66,72-3,115-6,157,166 |
survival | factors in | 19,43,47,105,114,123,148 |
talking | about difficulties | 33-42,150 |
talking | deciding not to | 92-93 |
talking | the way in? | 150-1,154 |
talking | to a child expected to die | 92-95 |
talking | to children | 15, 83-99 |
talking | to family | 30-1,34,41,80,117,150-1,169 |
talking | to friends | 11-16,24-6,33-4,93,117 |
talking | to medical staff | 23,27,35,39,41,92,94-6,117 |
talking | to someone with experience | 15,27,29-31,34,65,87,93,108-9,115,128-9,149 |
tears | weeping | 72,152,168 |
teenagers | understanding of death | 83,85-6,92-4,97.99 |
telling others |
| 21-22,31 |
terminal | phase | 53,161-4 |
terminal illness |
| 13,15,16,87,138 |
time | as a healer | 22, 62 |
time | for goals and interests | 25 |
time | for renewing contact | 25 |
time | from family and friends | 24-Jun |
time | from medical staff | 23 |
time | to talk | 14,21,37,59 |
treatment | active | 46 |
treatment | decisions | 33-35 |
treatment | end of | 29 |
treatment | for cure | 14,16,19-20,26,34,44-6,126,128 |
treatment | holistic | 47,50,153 |
treatment | palliative | 14,35,46 |
treatment | stopping | 13,34,47 |
treatment | withdrawing | 14,52-3,57 |
uncertainty |
| 13,20,29 |
undertaker | (funeral director) | 61,134-6,140-2,145,161-2 |
unexpected |
| 59-66,78-9,81,86,134,161 |
web sites | additional | 178-9 |
web sites | at the end of each chapter |
|
what to say? |
| 11, 13.16,24,151 |
who to speak to | choosing | 24 |
why? | did this happen | 62,71 |
will | finding | 137-9 |
will | making | 12,16137-8,145 |
wishes | make known | 41,44,136,142,143 |